The point where the tug-of-war starts — Yoon Jae Chan's 'Bickering'

When a relationship starts you only see the good in the other person. Not because you're blind, but because there hasn't been time to see the rest.

Time passes and the rest starts showing. That's when you collide over small things — not big fights, but small ones, continually.

The song Yoon Jae Chan put out two days ago stands exactly in that stretch.

When the featured artist writes and composes

Actor Jung Zi So features on this song.

Item	Detail
Artist	Yoon Jae Chan
Song	'Bickering (feat. Jung Zi So)'
Release	August 6
Participation	Jung Zi So — featuring, lyrics, composition
Yoon Jae Chan	Composition, lyrics, arrangement

Featuring usually means lending a voice and nothing else. On this song, Jung Zi So is credited with the lyrics and composition as well.

When the person singing also writes the words, the song's character changes. You aren't performing an emotion someone handed you; you're singing your own words. All the more so in a song built as an exchange between two people. That two people wrote a song about fighting means both sides got in.

A title that is an onomatopoeia

'아웅다웅' is an onomatopoeia. Not a word that explains a meaning, but one that imitates a sound.

There's no gravity in it. Call the same situation a quarrel or a conflict and it turns heavy; call it 아웅다웅 and it lightens. Seen from outside it even looks endearing.

But it isn't light for the people inside it. The gap between the word seen from outside and the thing lived from inside — that's the place this title makes.

The picture of a tug-of-war

The album jacket carries a drawing of two characters in a tug-of-war. Facing each other against a blue background.

Tug-of-war is a game where winning makes the other side fall. And if you let go of the rope, both of you fall. Balance is held only while both keep pulling.

The song is described as drawing the stretch after the early passion has passed and the flaws start showing. Lay that description over the tug-of-war drawing and it becomes clear which story this is. Not a relationship that ended, but one still being pulled.

Tonight, try it like this

Leave one light on, and keep the volume down. A song about small squabbles doesn't suit a big sound.

Then bring up one recent moment when you collided with someone over something trivial. It doesn't have to be a partner. Family or friends — it happens in any relationship that has lasted.

You can only squabble in small ways with people who are close. With distant ones you simply stop seeing them. So bickering also means neither of you has let go.

A rope is taut only while both sides pull. When one side lets go it isn't a fight, it's the end. So for as long as both are still pulling, the sound can be called this. 'Bickering'.